What a wonderful reply. Words that I couldn't seem to find today. Know what is funny, I was trying to explain to someone else, not on here, this morning, what detatched was to me. I hate the term LRT. Because that is, for me, done.
I will share some stuff on a day to day basis, sort of, simply to show others that they are not alone. From a female perspective, excessive anger, borderline abuse, is something that we are told to walk away from no if's, and's, or but's. But in this situation, even with H who were tempermental in the past, the anger in MLC can be so much worse. And when you feel like you are the only one who has experienced it, well, your self esteem goes to pot quicker than any other way.
Fallgirl,
I was not trying to scare you. I was simply wanting you to see you are not alone. I hid H's treatment of me for years, it wasn't so horrible most of the time that it was a very slow process of me seeing MY part in allowing it. Only when MLC and it got really really bad, did I even begin to see it for what it was. I went into protective mode, which is where I think you are now, but that did help me to figure out MY boundaries, like Mach is suggesting you do. In some ways, even though I really wish we didn't have to travel this road, I am so grateful for it because of what it has done for me. Took time, still things to work on, may never be a totally finished product but getting better every day.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
