I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

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I'm sorry I've been away. I had lost your thread for a while there.

mishka, thanks for coming back!
you always give great advice!

i will do the rubber band thing, just trying to be funny to lighten my mood. but it does look like a good idea so i will have to give it a go, but 6 months. wow, that is a long time! but hey, if it helps and works and teaches me to think differently, then i'll do it as i dont want to feel this forever.

The USCIS will not just accept his word that he's been abused. They require proof.

i was thinking of this as well but i was really scared that he would get documentation from the psych hospitals i was in and say that i was mentally unstable and therefore subjected him to mental cruelty and emotional abuse. but then again, how can he get documentation because of doctor-patient confidentiality. but he is still currently my proxy, i dont know if that entitles him to any of my files..when he left, he took all of the documentation i had from the hospital, like letters from the doctors with my diagnosis and prescription info etc. But i don't think that would be enough and i'm worrying myself far too much by being fixated on an issue that i dont know anything about.

it just worries me because that seems, at this point, to be his only option to stay in the country..and he PROMISED me that he was not leaving, and that he wanted to stay to work on our friendship when the time allows. so im trying to think positively and act as if he would never do such a thing that would completely ruin our chances of remaining friends. argh, its so hard not to think about how he is going about this process!! i know there's no point in thinking about it, i just hope everything turns out ok in the end. i hope he doesnt file that way and i hope he doesnt have to go back home because if he does, thats our relationship gone

i'm really sorry to hear about your friend, that is awful!! i know a lot of girls here married to guys who are doing the same thing to their wives but they take the beating because thats what they were taught in their countries, husbands need to put their wives in place!! its the most absurd thing in the world. and my is one of those people, she believes its ok for men to hit women if they get out of line..like not cooking dinner on time. it just blows me away, how anyone can think that way. but thats negative, im not going to think about it!!

but thank you for telling me your story, it definitely puts my mind at ease a bit.
i dont know what kind of proof he would have anyway.

quick question mishka, during this process of her going to the courts to show proof, was her H ever involved in the process? did they ever call him in to defend himself? i'm just wondering if he does decide to file that way, if i would know about it and be called in for a hearing or something..

as for now, im going to see my IC, please let me know about my last question if you have any information about it, thanks so much!