It's nice your H takes out the garbage - mine hasn't done that in forever!
I will pray that you are able to be positive this week. It is comforting when we are able to focus on the fact that God is in control. I know, easier said than done sometimes.
I don't understand how anyone could go after a married man (or woman), but then again we don't know what they tell the OP.
"Why do I love him and miss him so much when he's treated me like c#*p? I keep thinking this is not my H. He would not be acting this way. My H loved me and told me so everyday." - I feel exactly the same way. Why are we putting up with it? My H in a conversation last said he didn't know how long I could go on receiving "nothing" from him since he has nothing to give at this point. I didn't say so then, but I made a promise to him and plan to hold up my end as long as I can.