S14 told me yesterday that they were not going to H`s homeplace this week end. There`s an annual event on there that H has never missed. My guess is that MIL told him not to come without me. Its a little more than a guess, one of my BIL`s told me a few weeks ago that she had threatened to tell H not to come if he doesn`t bring me. I felt like telling H to defy her on that one. She can`t be making decisions for him. But then I can`t either! and I`m not going to control, or even ask him what happened. I hope just to find some way of coping with his anger over the w`end.
I know I didn't respond to this, and I'll tell you why.
I tend to post from a philisophical place than one of everyday advice.
This has to be your decision, not mine or anyone else's. Nobody here knows what is happening in your life as well as you do.
But...If it were me ? If you wanted to go, then do it, but use the same attributes around them as you do him.....You never know who is a direct hotline back to him.
Don't do it as a ploy, be real, be yourself....
If you don't want to go ? Then don't.
But don't worry how this will affect him...
You have no clue what his bottom is, and to wonder is fruitless effort on your part....
