i would suggest telling her politely to let you know when shes coming over first and if she gets angry, simply ask her your second suggestion, what if (w) were coming out of the bathroom and saw Gardener standing in your kitchen unannounced?

dont know if that would push her away even more but like GIMA said, it does maintain an element of mysteriousness..

Me: 25 years young
H: 37
No Kids
M: almost 3 years (anniv coming up Sept 25th)
Together: 4years
Bomb: June 12th, 2009

**LOVE WILL FIND A WAY FOR TWO FOOLS IN THE RAIN**