I bought some OTC sleeping pills so I can catch up on my sleep. It helped, but I still was up later than I should be in order to get through my day of work. Hope this gets better soon.
W invited me to lunch. She wants me to see her rental home shell be moving into. I'm sirenits to give my approval. Any thoughts, d I need to show excitement regardless?
She wants me to see her rental home shell be moving into. I'm sirenits to give my approval. Any thoughts, d I need to show excitement regardless?
Aren't you dealing with a OM still? If so you are too busy to go by or go to lunch.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
sorry coach. You were absolutely right. I had already agreed to lunch before I got your response. I was looking for advice on what to say about the house. I just kept itabout beinga safe place for the kids to visit.
Well W rearranged plans to make it easier on her to have me drop off the kids at her sisters. I said no problem not realizing that would mean she is now leaving two hours earlier. Kids are staying with family now till Sunday and her goodbye to them now is it till Sunday with kiddos.
So a question to all the wise ones out there. How do I respond to W when she does something irritates me or pi$$es me off and I visually show it, and she calls me out on it! I try to blow it off as nothing.
So a question to all the wise ones out there. How do I respond to W when she does something irritates me or pi$$es me off and I visually show it, and she calls me out on it! I try to blow it off as nothing.
I *think* you do something like this:
If she catches you, compose yourself immediately. Restore yourself to a pleasant demeanor and vocal tone.
"Whoops. You're right; I'm sorry." Then make some pleasant comment that changes the subject, ends the convo, etc.
Anyone else?
Depends on what it is, of course. I'm not meaning to say that you should let her walk on you or treat you badly, just that getting pissy with her is probably counter-productive.
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So a question to all the wise ones out there. How do I respond to W when she does something irritates me or pi$$es me off and I visually show it, and she calls me out on it! I try to blow it off as nothing.
I don't qualify as wise but you need to handle this. She calls you on it because you are communicating to her in a passive aggressive way. It's unhealthy communication for both of you. I bet this is one of her issues with you - lack of communication. You have a responsiblity to bring up things that distress you. Solution - When you do _____________, I feel ______________. You are letting her know what behaviors upset you not her personally. Things she does not who she is. Try it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
