EoT- I'm reasonably sure there is something else going on. I figure it is one of three things - either guilt over the A that she can't/won't deal with, a current OM or some other mystery trauma that she won't deal with either ... or some combination of any of these Even if I'm right, hounding her to come clean or to deal with things isn't going to happen unless She wants to. It's like she's hiding from herself.
