How long before any kind of spiritual awakening occurs? Some realization of what a vow and covenant really means? Some thought about "Oh, I do have a family and kids that need both parents to be united and loving"? "Oh you mean that was for life? I didn't realize for life meant for life".
Kevin, I hate to say it, but one of the toughest things for me to have come to grips with is that cold reality is that this RARELY happens. And if it appears to, many times it's a "false start" or -- worse -- just crocodile tears.
Read the success stories. Most of them are LONG, hard, grudging work, step by step, with fits and starts along the way. It takes a couple of YEARS.
You're 8 runs down, and you're looking for two grand slams. The truth is, you need some combination of 32 singles, walks, etc.