WAW Using God

[pigskin]

Sandi, can I ask what finally DID make you stop your EA?

It was a combination of several things over a long period of time. To drop to the bottom line, I’d say it was the fact I knew it was the “right” thing to do. I may have tried to run away in a fantasy world and think I could turn into a different person and live a different life for a while, but I am a person who believes in strong moral & Christian values……and believe me…what I was doing was eating me up alive. In my gut, I knew I could not destroy my family……or my own life. I simply could not throw a lifetime away that my H and I had made together……for some OM or his lifestyle (which was totally opposite from ours). In all reality, OM & I would never have made it out of the shoot. If I had not been given the resouces here on this board, and was “watching” the OM to see if he resembled any of the signs that I was told about……I would have been suckered a lot longer, then I’d hate to think of how far I may have gone before getting my eyes open. The OM was very good at what he did and I was fooled for a long time, but finally one little something showed up and I began to think that the people here knew what they were talking about. That all happened in perfect timing with me getting the courage to drop contact.

So it was your own decision, and not something your husband did in particular (other than being committed to the marriage and willing to change to be the spouse you and he wanted?).

Just looking for any tips other than working on myself, which I think I'm doing very well with.

My wife is not in my face with her EA and respects the boundaries I've drawn (at least as far as I can verify without snooping or asking her "did you have inappropriate communication or spend inappropriate time with the EA"). Complicating matters are some health issues she's having that are annoying her and also affect her mood at times.