What do you have planned for the weekend? Anything fun?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Yeah, the kids are staying with me this weekend. My D has a bball tournament all day tomorrow and Sunday and then we are having a swimming party for the team afterwards on Sunday at our home.
Sounds like a great weekend. Make the most of it with your kids. Laugh and play with them. I'm looking forward to hearing how it goes.
Keep going to God for help with your M. He won't let you down if you pray with faith and stay faithful to him and don't doubt him. Remember, it is not in our timing but his. I have to remember that to.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I just picked up my son and we are gonna play guitar hero until my D's bball practice is over. You hang in there today, I know you have had a tough one. Yesterday was mine.
I am hanging in there. Tell me how your Saturday was today?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Weekend was pretty much a disaster. I think my W is done, all of her words and actions point to that. Also, I don't believe the OM is out of the picture as I thought and hoped. We have MC on Wednesday and I fully expect that to be the last one that she will be willing to do to as far as work on marriage goes.
I'm sorry to hear that. Try and not talk about OM to her. Let that fantasy run its course. In the mean time be the most awesome dad you can be and focus in on your hobbies that you have been doing. How is the apartment looking now? Are you having your kids put in some ideas for it? DavidsWife suggested that one to me and the kids love it.
Don't lose hope. You are probably in for a bit of a stretch. I still say the fact that she went to dinner with you for the anniversary was a positive sign.
Are there any arguements going on? Are you giving her all of her space? If this might be the last MC session, go in their calm and cool and project confidence and cheerfulness the best you can. In other words, don't get into a heated discussion with her. Give her a reason to want to keep going and don't help in her decision to quit by being confrontational.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Also make sure to validate your W's feelings in the MC session. Not about D and not about OM. But about feelings she may have of things you need to work on or things you may have done that she is upset about.
Try at the your best possible to not show any frusturation or disbelief. That may not be easy, but try anyways.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
"Weekend was pretty much a disaster. I think my W is done, all of her words and actions point to that. Also, I don't believe the OM is out of the picture as I thought and hoped."
So what happened and why don't you think OM is out?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
