LFH, do you feel that you have detached too much and that you would not want to reconcile with your W? I noticed that you used an expression earlier about how you were near to "dropping the rope" and that your hope had run dry. If you had done earlier what you have done recently.......except not give up all hope.......then I would have said that was a perfect picture of a LBS dropping the rope. And what gets me is that this has been explained over & over again to LBS.....that if they would do this then the WAS would probably take a good hard look at what they were doing and have second thoughts about it. As soon as you told your W, then she was immediately attracted to you! But now, you have reached the point that you are ready to move on to a new chapter and even though you said with or without her, it sounds more "without her".

I am not fussing at you. I am frustrated b/c it's so ironic-- that most of the time in the stitches here on the board, we read.....it is as if it is too late for the M before all this sinks in.....and then the tables turn. Maybe it is the feelings of detachment you are experiencing and after some time, you will be change how you feel at this moment. I want to believe there is still a lot of hope left. As I have said before, I hope you will have peace in whatever you do. I know this has been horrible for you.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!