Well, it's time for minor boundary to be set. First since my wife moved out, actually. S & DIL live with me temporarily. My wife and DIL do something briefly/hand something off at my house 1 or 2 mornings a week. Bottom line is, I go through my morning routine and unexpectedly am surprised to see my wife in the house, kitchen, whatever. Unannounced (to me). It bothers me more and more and I realized this morning that "it's" bothering me out of all proportion because I'm more upset at myself for not having said anything yet than I am at her unexpected appearances (the old don't want to push her further away nonsense. I mean, how much further away could she get? Sheesh!
Let's see: a)"I'd like to be informed when you're going to be dropping by in the morning," or b)"Wife, I'd like you to imagine for a moment stepping out of your bedroom or bathroom in the morning and discovering me standing in your kitchen..."
She's very visual, so B would drive the point more, but screw it. A is direct.
Aaarggh! Over thinking again!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
