Let's all remember that whatever WE think about OP or this or that or retrovaille, it's ORich's thread and he's hurting a lot now. . . .
Sandi2 was an almost WAW who came back and even though stat's say most men who div have OW (not 99% but more than half,) the numbers ARE lower for women leaving...
I would like to see the source for that, because I had always heard -- and my experience on these boards and others has certainly shown -- that it's the exact opposite. A woman is MUCH less likely to leave a marriage unless she has "a soft place to fall."
In any case, as I noted above, my warnings to Orich at THIS time, WERE precisely because he was hurting. Many LBSs find comfort to know that there are reasons why their walking-away spouse are saying such hurtful things to them, and are in the fog that they are.
But I've said my peace on it, both to him initially and now here yesterday, and I'll drop it.
