Go back to what works. A fight,argument,disagreement isn't and shouldn't be the end of the world. It is how we get our frustrations and worries out. It is healthy as long as it isn't a habit. You both weren't sure how to approach some feelings because they were tender spots but now it is out there.
Take a deep breath, break the issues down and go from there. You are a smart lady, you can get this back on track.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory