Bonny, I think H has always had the tendency to put himself first although he's not generally insensitive.
While he doesn't want me to get sick he is more concerned about his own health. He can't offer to take the kids or help out not because he wouldn't want to help me but because he is concerned he will get sick and he has an important exam coming up. So by saying I'm paranoid it helps his conscience when he doesn't visit the kids or help me out.
Mac, when you make reference to the sensitivity do you think that's a male/female difference or do you think this was just me being super sensitive?
