back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

I trusted her in saying she was done with the EA. I needed to do that so we could move on. I belIeve she ended it finnaly. She didn't trust me cause I used spyware to prove she was having an EA. I had a facebook and blocked her. I started my account when she was using her FB to communicate with OM.

She believes that I had the house bugged etc. I didn't. She had the perfect storm brewing. Just back from a long weekend with girl freind out of town. She missed calling home to say good night to kids. B5 needed to talk to her so I called her phone and no answer. Many excuses were made why. Didn't beleive that it was a rule to call. For 10 years of my traveling and her there was always a call home unless impossible to call due to flight or time zone. I called her on it.

That was another of these "control issues" she claims I have. She wants to go to school for training in a field. So she can have a job when kids are full time in school in 1 year. We discussed and said it was a good idea to do it in 1 year. She started chasing schools and financing and doing interviews at the schools. I found out by overhearing a conversation with her friend. I called her on it and it became a control issue.

I know my wife and she would chase it and then get disapponited and resentful that she couldn't do it. I said this to her and she agreed that she would feel that way. I said we needed to sit down and discuss all the options and amke a plan. I thought we unerstood eachother. I actually started looking at how it could work out for my job to take care of the kids in the afternoons. I traveled for work this week. I called home to see how things were going and talk to the kids. They were all on their way home from an interview at one the schools for her training.