Mach, if you get a chance to post I`d appreciate it. Since I started LRT-end of April I think, H has just pulled away even more. Its as if my detaching from him, my getting on and having a life, has made him angrier.
I noted this as I journalled it here. Specifically, each week he would do things to try to drive me crazy lock me out of my bedroom,leave the lawn uncut, leave the electricity bill out unpaid for me to see, plus the letter threatening to disconnect us(he always paid it). More recently hae has stolen my credit cards from my purse, locked my mobile phone. Oh and he denies doing any of these things till he`s blue in the face before eventually caving in.
Of course I knew(learnt the hard way) not to react to these things in crazy mode. Just assert my position gently or ignore them depending on the situation. the buttons he`s hoping to press are my angry/upset ones. He may also be hoping I`ll make a decision on the direction of the relationship as he can`t make a deicision to save his life. But I`m not going there anymore either.
Have to say I`m far happier in this detached place. I don`t value my life in terms of the success of my M anymore. I can see all the other little bits have a joy in them separate from my M woes and I`m(most of the time!) revelling in that.
I`m also working with my therapist and ways to heal my end of me that has caused my part in the M breakdown.
I am concerned though where H`s sneakiness and anger may take him in trying to get at me. Or should I just drop those negative expectations too?
