Serenity then I feel I'm in distinguished company. Even Shakespeare needs translating sometimes If you need an Afrikaans / English translator in case I pop in a few you don't understand (lekke is one) then try stars21.com
I had a wonderful Skype call (from the UK) from the guy that arranged the blind date between W & I - 45 minutes and boy was it a good one. He's got so much faith in the successful outcome. It's infectious Wish he was over here to bang both our heads together.
Really looking forward to some feedback from W best friend and Philip tonight.
Still want to support W (I'm not supposed to know about the job remember) but what do I do if she doesn't text or call me to set up a meeting to discuss the finances? Do I just draw cash and get it to her?
BIG hugs (with Karen). She was so happy to see me (and I her). She said later on that she honestly felt the visit would be a miserable one. Me in a state. And she was SO surprised to see the old Ken and not what she expected. Two hours of pure fun. Yipee!
I found out a couple of things.
1. The job that my W is doing is temporary. Last day tomorrow. 2. Brothers et al are telling W that she needs to get her bum home.
And one more.
Karen is so confident that this will sort itself (W) out soon.
I find myself in two (or more) minds about W loosing job. One the one hand I'm so pleased that she proved to herself that she has worth. Very sad that she's going to be unemployed again. But she's had a taste. That she will be back in "friends" house really bugs me. The money that she got she gave to "friend".
So I feel she's back to square one. But with big differences. She's seen what could be. She's getting pi$$ed off with the situation as it now stands (grass greener elsewhere? Don't think so).
Karen also mentioned the big public punch-up between "friend" and W. Tensions are building and are not dissipating.
Karen had one of her friends around to her home last week. W found out about it and was very put out that she wasn't invited. W had a few verbals with Karen. Karen read her the riot act. Have a feeling that W isn't feeling wanted. By anyone.
OPEN YOUR EYES!
I am convinced that the evening went so very well. Karen is not going to lie to W. But she is going to tell the truth about what was discussed. GOOD! If I can't get near W past the gestapo "friend" then I'll accept all the help I can from others who have seen the vast improvement in me. And rely on them to pass on their feelings to W. It's then up to her to her to be stronger than she's ever been and get a move on with her life - in the right direction - ours.
So - off to cook. Something and french-fries. Gotta work out what I can give the pooch's in the morning. Ran out of biscuits. Not paid until Monday. Who gives a stuff. Things will come right.
Fight me must. Hang on to that thought. Bollocks (I'm hanging onto those to)
We're all here for you sweet.
And now you know why it felt so right to christen her Serenity - because she really is beautiful - inside and out - just like someone else I know (oh stop crying!). I mean it.
Kitty Kats - that's a biscuit - now we get back to food again!
Something has now manifested itself into Boerwors - sausage to you That means I can leave some for the doglets in the morning.
May catch u later but might just flake out (oh more food there - did you spot it? )
I think after reading this I may need a bigger book to translate lol...
Thank you for your subtle message hidden in there - Now that makes my day my friend.
I am fighting - Today just not as hard as I guess I should...Anger (not to much though) is my friend today...I sent you a link...Have a looksee when you have a chance...
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Been catching up on your sitch. Tooka few days off from forum as you know from my note to Givingitmyall this morning.
Serenity's got your number - and your back. You better listen!
NO texting. Drop the rope. Make her curious about this guy she thought she knew. I particularly liked the Serenity's (?) comment about leaving her to flail away in her happy new world of hers! Be patient. Patience is the hardest part, for me. When I lack it, I make it a point to recall whatever recent "small changes" in her behavior I've seen. Gives me patience to stay the course.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
You have no idea what a "change" Karen saw last night. What a "change" Philip and the BIL's saw last week. The "change" everyone in the local have seen.
And the news that EVERYONE is telling "W" to sort her sh1t out and get home has surprised and gladdened me no end.
I thought it was just me working my a$$ off. How wrong I was.
W must be getting splinters with all the scratching.
Serenity is a brick wrapped in silk (does that make sense?). I 'recon we both relate very much with each of our sitch's and like everyone here know what we're working for.
Fab day - easy one. I go to one client (big Ad agency). I know everyone there. I'm really looking forward to Glady's non-stop free Cupertino.
Refund money came through so I can buy dog biscuits!
After that last post I had a thought on why I believe things are truly turning round.
I've found I'm living what I've become. The old "junk" has been packed up and shipped out. I don't feel like I'm acting anymore. I'm back to my old self of a few years ago.
So the thing to do now is be annoyingly persistent in showing everyone that : : Nothing is to much trouble. Crack a smile whenever possible. Join in conversations. Share. Empathize - this one's a goody.
There area whole list of other things (anyone want to join in?).
Show everyone the changes each and every day and by the power of osmosis the changes that people can see each and every day is going to sink into my W's wonderful grey cells.
Wish he was over here to bang both our heads together.
