Thank you for sharing your thoughts Kettricken. It just so happens that I am very familiar with this and other communities like it. And as far as it being asinine for me to share a post regarding my own personal experience in hopes it may help another human being find clarity in a time of trouble is duly noted.
As for the "true love" and "her age", they very well may be a contributing factor in her realizations.
I also do see your point about the OM. This is a real possibility especially if this "old friend" was never mentioned until just recently. I will give you that much! They usually just seem to pop up out of nowhere.