So, more news on W's job situation. She had another run-in with the lady to whom she reports. Long meeting today, and it truly sounds like my W's superior is pretty unreasonable and quite rude.
I should have known something was up when W sent me an IM on her way home to say she had had a bad day and another meeting with XXX - she has not done that since the bomb.
W is visibly upset about today and she even had tears welling up in her eyes when she told me. She does not want to continue in that job, and I don't blame her. We do need the $$$$, but her sanity and happiness is more important.
So, I suggested we break out the budget to see what it would look like if she stopped working. I just finished talking with W for the last hour and a half about that, mostly re-hashing her day today. I say talk, but I mostly just listened, made eye contact and asked appropriate questions. When we started the conversation, she said "I don't know what I am going to do." "I"? But, I didn't react. Just brought up going over the budget. By the end of the conversation, I told her her work situation was not good. Although I agreed with her that "we" could use the $$$, it was not worth it if it cost us her sanity and happiness - and I meant that.
It's funny b/c earlier this evening before we discussed her work issues, I caught myself questioning whether I loved her and whether I was still attracted to her. I don't know the answers to those questions tonight, but I do know I felt compassion and sorrow for her for her job situation. I know it is troubling her. But, I think I only support, let her know I am here and that I am ok with whatever she choses. In the end, this is her problem, and her's to resolve.
