I'm not saying to tell her not to call. I wouldn't do that at all. I'm saying don't answer right away when she calls. Make it look like you have a life outside of her. Add some mystery to it.

The fact that you have a sep agreement for 1 year buys you time to let this fantasy run its course. And yes, that is exactly how it feels. It feels like the first time with you. Its all new. Its exciting. Its taboo. It is not reality. When reality hits, it changes. Thats why I am saying it is fantasy and let it run its course and it will run its course.

I'm glad you are in the best shape of your life. That is good to hear.

Being the nice guy almost never works. You might read the book No More Mr. Nice Guy and also Hold On To Your Nuts. Its not about being a jerk. Its about knowing how to stand up for yourself and not be a pushover. No, most women in this situation do not respect the nice guy. Puppy would be great for you to talk to in this situation. He is posting on Orich's thread right now. You might just hijack it for one post and say a quick tidbit about you being a nice guy and it not working and ask if he can come help you out.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...