I meant no offense. Nor did I wish to sound callous to Orich's sit. And I certainly did not accuse anyone of anything.
I simply wanted to share my experience from a person who went through D in hopes that it would help shed some light on a possible reason for all of this. My sit is not entirely unique. I have heard similar stories from W in my support group.
The truth is, I didn't realize my R was so badly damaged until it was too late. I'm not regretful for it today because God has given me a new and wonderful life that is filled with love. I would like nothing more than to hear that everything worked out for Orich. I just want him to be strong and do things to make himself feel good about who he is. He needs to concentrate on himself and his children right now.
Puppy, I have to agree with you to some degree. But each situation is different and unique. There are many factors to consider...How long has it been since any problem was first realized? How much communication was there throughout the R? Did either W or H identify that there was a problem? Did either identify a problem but was afraid to approach the other about it? Was the problem identified and did they take action to try to fix it? And some of us, me included, don't even realize what is happening to us until that thing clicks in our heads and we have a realization. And alas, no one deserves to be "HORRIBLY UNHAPPY". I would absolutely encourage them to discuss it with their spouse. If W said nothing and suddenly decided to walk away without even trying then she is at fault. But again, that doesn't change W's reality or point of view because what she is experiencing is very real to her.
