WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Stuck,

Things haven't been going well since Sunday.

On Tues AM, when she dropped off the boys, the first question she asked was if the 3 year old had gotten a nap. She was really annoyed that he had missed it and she said she didn't appreciate it. I told her that we didn't get done with the mulch until 2:30 on Monday and by the time we at lunch and got back home it was almost 4:00 PM. He seemed fine so he missed his nap (normally when he is tired or ready for his nap, he says he's going to bed now).

She was really stressed about her new job assignment at work. I tried to be supportive and listen.

Her mom showed up to watch the boys and I went out to lunch with my friend. She was doing better with her pregnancy and should find out what it is in the next couple of weeks, but her grandmother was not doing well with her cancer.

We talked about my situation and job a bit. It was a good lunch.

I got back home and the boys and I did some light stuff until I had to make dinner. I made enough in case my wife joined us for dinner (she did). It was a good dinner until my mom called her on her cell phone. Unfortunately, we had to leave for the soccer game so she said she would call her back in 10 minutes.

While I was coaching the soccer game, I could see my wife talking on the phone and getting agitated. I tried to make lit chit chat with her during the breaks to see how she was but I could see she was mad and didn't want to talk. After the game ended, as we drove back home (we rode together), my 3 year old asked if he could go home with me. My wife said that was ok if I was ok with it. I said sure.

Then my 7 year old really surprised me when he said he wanted to go back to her apt (I think it's because he hadn't spent much time with her in a while, they are really "connected"). My wife said that was fine as well, so, much to my surprise and against what I would have preferred, we split the boys up on Tues nite.

I had a good Tues nite with my 3 year old as we just hung out after the soccer game and played and "talked".

My 7 year old called me later that nite to talk to me (surprising). He sounded sad but he didn't really say as my wife was right next time.

I was tempted to call my wife to see what my mom said to her, but I called my mom to ask what she said. My mom started by saying that she didn't call, but when I told her that I was sitting next to my wife when her phone rang, she realized she was caught in a lie and fessed up. I told her not to call her as it is not helping. I was really mad.

I thought my wife would call to talk about it, but she didn't.

On Weds AM, my wife dropped off my 7 year old but she was running late to work so we didn't talk. She was agitated that my 3 year old didn't want to give her a hug or kiss goodbye. That was the last I heard from my wife.

I had a great Weds with my boys. We went to the driving range in the morning and then watched a local baseball game while we ate Pizza for dinner. It was a really good time.

Today, I took the boys fishing with one of my buddies. They have been asking for a while, so I finally got it set up. I was nervous that they wouldn't catch anything, but within 30 seconds my 3 year old had his line in, he caught a fish! My 7 year old was anxious/upset as I was still setting up his rod. He didn't catch anything for about 20 minutes and it looked like he was getting really frustrated when he caught one.

Then they really seem to start biting (they were just sunnies so it watch catch and release). We caught about 15-20 and then moved to another spot where my 7 year old's line was on fire - catching one almost every couple of minutes. My 3 year old did well too. I think over all we must have caught over 50 fish (although some of them may have been the same one multiple times).

They both loved it!

I treated my buddy to lunch for supplying the worms and his expertise. We had a couple of pitchers of beer and I let the boys have some beer as well (root beer).

My 3 year old then requested fish for dinner so we stopped at the store and picked some up. After we ate dinner, we went to the soccer game.

It was a little sad for me as my wife didn't show up and I oould see the boys looked disappointed. Plus I knew that I was going to miss the next game as I will only be able to coach Thurs games for the rest of the season (they play Tues and Thurs).

We were short players so I let my 3 year old play (he has a uniform) for a bit before the other team's coach said something. I was annoyed but didn't feel like arguing. I think it got my team annoyed as well as they do like my 3 year old.

We wound up shutting them out till the last 2 minutes of the game. My team was really tired as we didn't have any subs and at one point played 1 player short (it's 4 on 4) when one of our guys got hurt. Even though they scored 2 quick goals at the end of the game, we still won 4-2.

After we got home and was getting ready for bed, I asked if the boys wanted to tell my wife about their day. We called her cell phone, but she didn't answer. Both of my boys looked really sad and disappointed. I just told them to each say goodnite mommy when it went to voice mail.

She never called back.

Very upsetting for the boys and for me......

I really want to take them with me when I start my new job, but I know that will be a real legal battle. This is really crappy. They are going to be with their mom who says that she really wants them and loves them, but she pulls crap like this.

I just don't get it......