M25, I know you feel that you are doing all that you can at the moment. But what I want you to see is this......everything I warned you about is being played out! Is it not? I told you he would feel that he "had" to be there to support the OW and that if you said "anything" negative that he would make you feel like the bad person in this situation. That is exaactly what's happening.

Your H feels soooo guilty over OW and is so blind to what's going on! His guilt is causing him to stay at the hospital with OW's H and trying to play MC. He is choosing their M problems and trying to "fix" them over his own wife and M problems.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!