The difference being that your W didn't tell you so you couldn't have known. My W did the same thing. She did the bills because she insisted on it since she didn't like the way I ran the budget. I actually made us live on a budget. She racked up 25k in debt behind my back. I asked her more than once, how are we doing? Do I need to get another job to help out? The answer was always, we are fine and and there is no need for another job. I found out later that was not the case at all. In Jess's situation her H was asked to get a second job and he preferred to hang out with his friends. That is not what you did. So that comparison really isn't there for that particular situation.
There could be similar if not close circumstances to you and Jess's situation in other areas.
Like I said, we don't know for sure if there is an OM involved. It just looks like a possibility. I hope and pray there is not. There may not be at all. Just don't be shocked if there is. Just try and protect yourself for anything that may happen. That doesn't mean give up or assume. Just be in a good position to be able to handle whatever comes up and start working on making yourself better.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
