Wow -- where is this coming from? Who said that fathers are irrelevant???
Xw's mentor, her mother, is the chief source of this belief. It is a belief that xW rejected for years, but now embraces. This is not a matter of conjecture, FYI.
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Who said anything about XW gaining "full and absolute" control of your kid's lives?
xW was identified by our M counselor -- a noted psychologist -- as having a severe expectation of being able to control her H and family. (I forget how he originally put it. ) Basically, she's an anal-retentive control-freak. Her contribution to the discord in our R stems primarily from this need to control others.
So co-parenting with xW has proven to be a very daunting task because she deems to dictate every detail about how our children should be raised. She tries to micromanage everything. And she does not want another party to "interfere" with her plans, especially a former H. In fact, even though she managed to D herself from her H, she still thinks she can dictate how that ex-spouse can think and behave. It vexes her to no end that while she achieved her D it has also meant giving up controlling me and my behaviors. So I guess now she would try to control me through our children instead.
