Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Hey Twink,

The classes at LL Bean up here are on Casco Bay, ocean water.

I only mentioned going there because it is 17 miles from home and they supply everything including lunch!!!! They have excellant instructors. I do know they use a "sit in" style kayak. It is a full day class. They teach all the basics of kayaking and then you can sign up for intermediate classes and then even go on kayaking adventures through them for entire weekends. I live in water country. I grew up boating on lakes
and the ocean. I want to try something that is individual and
will challenge me.

Neither son or I are afraid of water. He goes white water rafting every summer and has a ball.

I am starting my second job next Wednesday so I want to get a couple of weeks additional pay into my pocket and then I will sign us up.

I am very pumped about this.

kissak, I think you should put more thought into a cute little something of a text for H while you are gone. Try and ramp up some fun. See where it takes you...... You could try "Good Morning at 7:00pm" He'll think you girls have been up to mischief for sure!!!!! LOL

I think we need to invent some fun in our lives......

Sanderika

[mishka422]

You could try "Good Morning at 7:00pm"

GOOD ONE!!!

[Twink]

The classes at LL Bean up here are on Casco Bay, ocean water.

Ah, then you WILL probably want the class! I am a bit down the coast from you for the summer, and have been going out on relatively protected ocean water -- no surf! -- by myself. It was a GAL activity I instinctively took up when my R started going south a few years ago. You will love it!

[Sanderika]

Thanks Mishka!!!! LOL

Thanks Twink!!!! Casco Bay is fairly protected because of all the islands. Your vote of confidence makes me feel great!!! I think we will love it and it will be rewarding, we love to do things together. We kind of had to learn how, H has been gone for almost 4 years now, so son and I became buddies.

Kissak, we are motivating you.....

Come up with a text for H.

Come up with an activity for you and the kids.

[shewholurks]

Kissak,

What do you hope to accomplish by even making contact with him while you are off on your weekend? You don't have to answer but please take some time and consider your motivations. Spend your weekend enjoying your girls and recharging your soul. That will be the most rewarding thing you can do this weekend.

Have a fabulous time!
*hugs*
~ swl

[kissak]

Thanks u guys....

Im not sure what I wanna get into with my kids...I really am trying to think of something....just not that much to do around here!

I doubt I will bother much with my H while Im gone....I doubt he will bother me much either...usually when Im gone and he knows Ive gone to get away...he wont bother me. I will be taking care of me this weekend!!!! But good suggestions on the text!

I really just thought it was cute that my friend was gonna do that to her boyfriend....maybe I will suggest to her the good morning at 7pm!! lol

H will have plenty to keep him busy this weekend with the kids. He has to move all his stuff out of storage and into a free place his dad is offering to him for storage.

Im sooooo ready to go!!!

[Sanderika]

GOOD MORNING KISSAK....READY, SET, GO.....

HAVE A WONDERFUL, RELAXING, SUN-FILLED WEEKEND!!!!!

COME BACK RECHARGED AND SMILING!!!!!

YOU DESERVE THE BREAK, MAKE EVERY MINUTE COUNT!!!!!

WE WILL CHAT NEXT WEEK, (((((HUGS)))))

SANDERIKA

[kissak]

WEll, Im back from my girls weekend!!

I had a GREAT TIME!!! It was sooo much fun!!

Today I am soooo sore and tired though. Sitting at home checking my emails relaxing some before the kids come home from their dad's.

Of course My H started in with his usual stuff on Friday Morning when I left....saying he really did miss me and wanted me to know it...etc.

Im sure he was afraid I would find a man while I was gone...I let him think whatever...I had a marvelous time and didnt let him bother me too much.

But I do wonder why he acts like that. If he misses me so bad and doesnt want any other men to have me, why doesnt he just come home....

Oh, I know why, cuz he is still the same person he was last week, month and year....lost and afraid.

I pray for him alot. It must be so miserable to live with that kind of undecisiveness.

[mishka422]

Glad you had such a wonderful weekend!!!! Sorry H is such an unmitigated a$$!

[Sanderika]

Good Morning kissak,

You sound great!!! Your weekend away was just what you needed!!!

I am so happy for you!!!!

Your H is probably telling the truth, he does miss you. I am sure our Hs miss us. They miss the way we took care of them and all the other stuff we did because we love them and our families. Without us life is hard. We are/were good wives, the best.

I wonder about him saying it. You guys see each and talk to each other often so it must mean more. My H sees and talks to me, not as much as you guys seem to, and he never says he misses me. He has said he misses my cooking. To me that's trivia. Your H says he misses you. I would work with that to come up with something new. Maybe the new, you are already doing....you are acting further detached and aloof. Very interesting.

Yours, like mine seems to still be in the grips of MLC. I wonder what they really think about, I have been told by mine he thinks about the marriage all the time. I have a feeling yours does the same. Yours is more verbal. It's rare to get my H to express his feelings and thoughts.

I agree with you about living in misery, even in our turmoil from the sitches we seem to live better than they do. It's so funny because they created their own misery and they haven't fixed it they remain wallowed up to their eyeballs in it. We are not happy exactly, and I wouldn't call our lives miserable, isn't it wierd somehow?

I wonder if they really just want us to share the misery they exist with.....

kissak, I have given myself plenty of chances here to survive this and I have realized just recently (yes, it took a while) I am going to be fine. I have reached that place all the veterans tell us about. I have reached contentment and I am going to be just fine.....You are there too, I am sure. You sound great!!!

Have a wonderful week....

Sanderika