Running out of gas

[Jimbo]

I ended up not doing anything, even though I wanted to call. I didn't want it to come across as pursuit. And she's abundantly clear that she has made up her mind that she wants out, and quickly. I'm trying not to fight her on the control issue. Does that make sense to anyone?

Makes perfect sense to me. But I think you knew that already.

We get along really well when we do get together. That is the hardest part. We're not fighting about anything and haven't really. She hasn't asked me for a single thing in all of this. She can't even identify for herself what it is that she wants or needs. But, and this is my favorite quote, "that doesn't excuse you from not meeting my needs." That's avoidance at its finest. The most frustrating part is that she's not really trying to get an answer. She just runs ahead to "I don't feel anything romantic, so why even try?" and then totally shuts down.

I have heard so many MLC quotes from so many different folks that I could fill up an entire afternoon posting them here. Three that come to mind offhand...

A friend of mine's W, when she was coming out of the fog: "Well, I'll let you woo me for a while before I decide whether I'm going to let you come back to me or not." (he didn't, and she still tried to come back!)

My W, after I did something funny during an interaction with her: (Delivered while looking longingly at me) "That's one of the things I'm going to miss about you."

A different friends W, after he drove to several different restaurants to find somewhere to eat to try to please her: "I don't KNOW where I want to eat, but I don't want to eat here. Pick somewhere else."

I got the variation of your W's quote when my W and I met up at our first (and last) MC session. As I walked her to her car, she announced that she wasn't going to go to MC anymore, and that she just didn't FEEL anything for me anymore.

Which she then followed up with, "So, do you want to go to dinner?"

Bizarre how the MLC mind works.......