You can't make good decisions if you don't know what you're actually dealing with. Orich, hate to pile on top, but I see a lot of red flags for at least an EA here too.
You can't expect anyone on earth to fight your corner but you, brah. Please educate yourself about your rights at this point and what the implication of leaving the house, etc, would be.
I know that's probably the last thing you want to focus on right now, but think of it as a favor you're doing yourself in the future. A favor for you *and* your kids.
Strength and Honor and Hugs(chick version)
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert