I chose to know also and it did create fights. But it also damaged the A to the point of OM retreating back to his W after I confronted him about it. I don't know which was more painful, having flags all around me and people telling me it was going on but having no real proof, or the actual proof which also caused sleepless nights.

It for the most part ended the A as far as I can tell, although I cannot totally confirm that. I know it put a dent in it. He was scared when I told him I was going to go to his W with the proof if he didn't end the A with my W.

It is a tough call to make. I wanted proof for all the flags. Looking back at it, it made things worse for me and W, but at least I dented that A.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...