She also told me that she needed to work on herself and that the kids would be happier having a mom that is happy and that God would not want her to be in a M that she is completely miserable in. Oh, and after the A occured, she told me that it was helping her to heal. Whatever. The point is, it is all script. You might want to examine that friendship a little more. And for the texting... That is a HUGE red flag. My W was texting and IMing also to "her friend". Even then I refused to believe she would cheat although I was becoming suspicous at that point. I am not recommending this, but I got hold of her text messages and emails after and I had all the proof on the PA. The reason I don't recommend it is because there were details that I wish I had never read. And if you get caught, my W accused me of breaking her trust even though I wasn't the one having an A.
Just be the best you can be and believe the saying "Believe only 50% of what you see and none of what you hear". It is so true.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...