I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

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Kettricken and orangedog,
thanks so much for your response and advice.
I spoke to an officer about the whole procedure and they think its best that I go into one of their offices and set up a meeting to speak to them personally about my situation.
since i was his sponsor, i would be legally responsible for him financially for the next 10 years unless certain things happen like he moves out of the US permanently etc etc.

what im most concerned about is his option to use abuse and cruelty to waiver the joint filing requirement. i know this isnt farfetched at all because i've read some of his emails while we were nearing the end of the relationship and he's been telling everyone at home that im abusive towards him and that he really wants to call an organization or something to deal with it. that is why im really worried. now, its not true, i was not abusive towards him, no more than what he was to me. we had our arguments, we had our fights, we both told each other off. i wasn't the only one engaging in that type of behavior. so i am really worried (and i think my worry is warranted based on those emails), that he would continue down that path and i dont want to be made out to be something im not.

and theres no way we can get divorced in a month anyway, i wouldnt sign the papers if i received it soon. so when i called the offices, they informed me that since he is in divorce proceedings and the marriage has not been terminated yet, he can't file for a waiver to remove joint status. and then they proceeded to tell me that his other option was to file for abusive treatment by the US spouse. base on his emails, and based on the fact that our marriage is not yet terminated and based on what this officer has told me, it seems like his only option and i have a horrible gut-wrenching feeling inside that he is going to continue with that.

in order to protect myself, she suggested i go meet with an officer so im going to schedule an appt soon to see what my options are, in terms of what i could do if he were to file under abusive treatment, and what my financial obligations are and what i need to do in order to maybe have that obligation removed.

Also, I'm not that worried about the Divorce, it'll sadden me to the core, but im more worried about him lying about me to the courts and thats not something im going to take lying down. i would like to speak with a lawyer regarding the divorce but i dont have to money to do so. also, i dont know if there is a need because we dont have children or any assets/property together. the only thing we have are bills and the fact that he left me with them and im unable to find any work, whereas he does work and has not sent me any money like he promised. thats the only thing thats an issue I THINK and i dont know it that warrants speaking to a lawyer. what do you guys think??