I offered a plant on my post when you told me about this...Silky, black, thong panties put into the folds of her shirt
You and I both know that he is telling them lies...He may have told them you were seperated (mine did), not living together anymore (yep this one to) or you all have filed for divorce (yes mine used this one as well)...I think Puppy says "All cheaters lie" and boy that is oh so true...
What you and I have to remember is just that...I have a very hard time thinking hubby is lying to me even when I know he is doing it a part of me still second guesses myself...I can have proof in my hand and he can say the opposite and I will then think well maybe I am wrong...Geez I need someone to beat this into my head apparently
I am still in need of some annointment oil - Though Mac states I can buy it at the local Texaco LOL!
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Another thing that breaks my heart... We used to have two other couples we would ride with and go on trips with. Last year we all went to Sturgis together. I told the wives at the time I thought H had ow. They were surprised I would even think such a thing. We always had so much fun together. Since H rides the bike and no longer takes me along we have lost contact. I have heard through the grapevine that they have taken her in, and they all ride together now. I don't know what he has told them, lies I'm sure. If I had been one of the other wives, I would have contacted the betrayed wife and ask what was going on. AND, not want to ride with the cheating H and his skank. I'm having a hard time seeing how they welcomed her in. They may all be going together somewhere. (sigh)
Hey MJ- I just caught up on your posts. I feel for you on this one... my WAS has gone on vacation with OW and our "best friends" (to a place we have all been together) as well as to a B&B in a town we have all also visited together. She & the OW stay with them when the W wants to be in NYC. She has also used another "friend's" house 1/2 mile away as a "love nest" and I have passed my W and the OW out riding their bikes in our neighborhood. Ugh. :-P On a good note, I am (not to be vain) a stunning 6'0" and about 150 lbs after the divorce diet, and the OW "troll" is at least 225 and to call her plain would be kind.
One of the difficult things in this whole mess is the feeling of loss of friends and family. If the WAS should end the A and return (I still pray for that) it will be hard to put the friendships back together in addition to the M....
Be well.
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
Yes, loss of friends and family is a heartbreaker. I can't understand it. H must be telling some doozie lies. I'm sure he is real convincing, he is a schmoozer. With what he does for a living, he is in the public eye all the time. Would you believe his job has to do with politics?! lol He does his job well, a convincing schmoozer. I don't know what hurts worse, his family not contacting me and asking what is going on, OR the mutual friends. I just don't get it.
How did you know where she went? I do not ask H. I don't want him to think I'm interested. I think he would be nasty about me asking anyway. I did not tell him where I went on vacation. He finally asked me the other night. Grrr... The skank is probably going with him. It should be me! The M was good, but he turned into an Alien. I don't know who or what he has become. He will be home from work anytime now. He'll get his things,leave,and have a great time. She will to, with my H. This makes me so sad. I should be the one excited about leaving to go on vacation with H. (sigh)
The next ten days will be so hard. How did you get through it?
Glad you called your Christian friend, if you would have called me in the mood I was in earlier I would have told you to kick it over. LOL!!
I'm new here, so not too sure on what advice to give for the next week. Just keep your head up.
Me-30 H-34 D-14 (mine) M-4 yrs T-9 yrs PA-11/07-4/08 Separate 4/08, begin DB H wants marriage/back home 6/08 Wants Divorce 6/09 Possible EA currently Separating 8/1/09
H just attached an empty tour bag ( a bag for holding clothes while your traveling) to the back of the Harley. We usually pack it first then attach it. Must be for skanks clothes. Grrr...
Stay tuned for further updates OR if you don't hear any for a while, I'm having a meltdown!
He was all set, came back into the house to tell me good-bye, and when he would be back. I then followed him out, told him to ride safe, and see him off. Then Uh Oh! Do you think someone is looking down on me tonight?
I haven't talked to you in awhile. How are things going at your house living with your MLC student? Has he been studying the script or does he have it memorized by now?! lol
H left, said he'd be back. He is either looking for a new battery, which would be hard since there's no Harley dealer in our town, OR getting dinner with skank and consoling her about not leaving tonight. I still really don't even know if she's going. Weird thing is he left his laptop at home. There was a time when he didn't leave home without it.
How did you know where she went? How did you get through it?
She was working a long term temporary job in IL (we are in NJ) that was ending. She mentioned that when she came home, she would have a little break before starting another project. We own 2 timeshares, and she asked if I would mind if she took a week in one "alone" to de-stress. I thought sure, why not (I had known about the A in IL for about 4 months). Let her take some space, think about things. She was going to be coming home, the A was going to become a long distance affair, maybe she would reconsider what she was doing (Hah! was I wrong!). So I said, OK I thought it was a good idea, she needed a vacation. Two minutes later, she tells me she intends to take OW. :-P So "alone" just means not her and me, not her by herself. I spoke to MIL on Mother's Day, and she is very upset. "Oh if only you had gone with her to IL, none of this would have happened. Now you just seem to be getting farther apart. And now she is going to Colorado with OW and M&S (our best friends)." I felt like I had been hit by lightning. They hadn't even MET OW and they agreed to go on vacation with them. Oh, and one week turned into 2- although the former best friends were only there for 5 days.
The B&B weekend I found out about because I check the call records (incoming & outgoing) on the phone when I come home from work (she sometimes works from home). Any unfamiliar numbers I do a reverse lookup on the Internet. So I saw a call to a B&B in PA, and glancing at her laptop a few days later, I saw an e-mail from former best friends that they had received her e-mail with the reservation confirmation. Phooey.
As for how I get through it, it is day by day- sometimes hour by hour. I am getting a life: going over to friend's, having friends over (I had a party in the house with 15 neighbors while she was at B&B), taking myself to movies, riding my bike, listening to "The Secret", reading and posting here. The fact that I am now working a structured job (I was in real estate) also helps: I don't have to figure out what to do with a large portion of my day as I used to have to. And I am on about my 21st reading of "Divorce Remedy". ;-)
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
