"catastrophizing" - I agree too. Don't start fighting battles that don't exist. You'll only defeat yourself. (O'Dog has a tendency to do this too. Takes work to stop doing it.)
Are you worried about divorce? Talk with a L. Yes, it's hard to do but it helps to get your questions answered and be prepared. I didn't want to take the step either but I found a L who works in D mediation (not a bloodthirsty shark!) and paid for a little of his time. I showed up with a list of questions, got my answers, then shook his hand and told him comically that I hope I don't have to see him again.
W knows I'm prepared too. When she brings up something legal I just defer to him because O'Dog don't do law. It really takes the pressure off me.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
