Divorce not busted 2

[FaithfulH]

Orich,
...I just wanted to explain how I am feeling....I really just don’t feel anything anymore for you in that kind of way...They made me see that life can end in an instant-and we must follow our heart. ...You and other people may call me selfish and any other names, but I can’t believe that me telling the truth and acting on how I feel is wrong. The kids would know eventually when they grow up and maybe think it is ok to stay with something that is not in your heart if we stuck it out...I know you wouldn’t want me to fake my feelings for you and just go on for the kids....But how can I teach them about truth and honesty and good will and the love of God when I am lying to myself about how I feel in my marriage....And to stay together would not promote a positive environment for anyone....But it’s not about me and you anymore, it’s about the kids....I am praying for you and for myself and the kids and everyone affected by me following my heart.

W.

Orich,

I wanted to highlight the parts of your W's letter that I believe point directly at the problem. She is under the mistaken impression that following her "FEELINGS" (or heart) will lead her to happiness. This is the biggest lie in the world! She needs to pick up her bible and read about how our hearts are deceptive! I feel like going home from work and taking a big nap...my boss might not like that. If I followed my feelings, I would have filed for D thousands of times in my 29 year marriage. What a bunch of BS...that this is not about you and her but about the kids! I cannot believe how many WAS' believe that!

Psalm 12
1 Help, O Lord, for the godly are fast disappearing!
The faithful have vanished from the earth!
2 Neighbors lie to each other,
speaking with flattering lips and deceitful hearts.

Orich, What I (and others) wrote you last night and this morning still stands no matter how your sitch changes. You MUST be strong, focus on you and the kids. Also, do NOT under any circumstances leave your home. Let her do the heavy lifting if she wants to start involving mediators and lawyers.