Orich - I would be very careful about how you proceed here with the lawyer. Personally I would get my own and did, but that's just me. I got some great advice on this very site about protecting my self. Long story short- I have full custody of my 3 boys and final say on all decisions. She is clearly looking for you to make this as easy as possible for her. And by the way - that entire letter was the cookie cutter that everyone else gets. Please take a step back and decide what is important to you if this actually goes to a divorce. It sounds like she is trying to play upon your good nature to get you to do what SHE wants.
And please don't misinterpret my intentions. I want you to save your M if that's what you want. But most of all I want you to protect yourself and do what's best for your children.
And please listen to Puppy about the OM. There is at least a good possibility that is what is at the root of this whole thing.
Strength and Honor.
Mules
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.