My W said the same thing. Always said that she would be fine being alone. Even after announcing the D, she said she isn't looking for anyone else. I found out later that was all a bunch of lies. She did have someone and she was infatuated with him.
I'm not saying your W does. I think we are just saying it sounds very familiar. That would actually further explain her scripting to you.
I hope it is not the case.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...