Right now she is enjoying her fantasy with OM because you are there to take care of her real life needs. Maybe you should back off a while and give her a taste of real life without you. Will OM step in and do what you do if that happens? I'm not thinking it is likely. He is only in it for the fantasy probably right now as well.

Thats the whole thing. Both are living in a fantasy world without having to live in real life every day issues. When you step away, her real life issues become real. It will hopefully make her think.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...