WCW - Thanks for responding. I've gone back and forth on what to do with respect to the anniversary. Last year I called to let her know that I was thinking about her and that I was glad that we were still a part of each others lives. Glad that she's been a part of my life to this point. I suggested we at least get together, get some ice cream or something. She got all sorts of mad and kept saying "this is not a celebration. There is nothing to celebrate." She did agree to meet, even though she kept saying it was a bad idea. It was good. We laughed like we usually do.
I ended up not doing anything, even though I wanted to call. I didn't want it to come across as pursuit. And she's abundantly clear that she has made up her mind that she wants out, and quickly. I'm trying not to fight her on the control issue. Does that make sense to anyone?
We get along really well when we do get together. That is the hardest part. We're not fighting about anything and haven't really. She hasn't asked me for a single thing in all of this. She can't even identify for herself what it is that she wants or needs. But, and this is my favorite quote, "that doesn't excuse you from not meeting my needs." That's avoidance at its finest. The most frustrating part is that she's not really trying to get an answer. She just runs ahead to "I don't feel anything romantic, so why even try?" and then totally shuts down.
