I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

Yeah, I need to be careful not to pursue, agressively, but she seems to be ok with me showing interest. Perhaps one can call it friendship. Rather than concentrating on not pursuing, I think the first turn-off would be pressuring. So, I concentrate more on not doing that.

Also, being in a happy, good mood helps. She's usually pleasant, and she likes when I am pleasant to her. That leads to nice conversation, cooperation, etc. I think my mood last year was not good (various reasons), and she had mentioned it before (long time ago) so I really had to shift my outlook on life, despite what was handed to me this year. Consistency is key, and I'm very pleased that my DB coach even noticed that it has been a good change in me, as it takes little to no effort anymore to have that happy, positive outlook. Life is truly easier and better this way. Why didn't I know this before?

Kids called me last night, and then W came on the phone, and told me about their day. We chose a time for me to pick up the kids today, she said she'd have them all ready to go, and we talked more about stuff. Not about us, just stuff that's going on. Lately, I have experienced more willing conversation from her, both on the phone and in person. We talked for maybe 10 minutes...I let her lead the conversation, rather than me trying to keep her on the phone. It was nice.

Gotta keep this up. Hopefully not only for the purpose of DBing, but throughout the rest of our M, which hopefully will be for the rest of our lives.

I'm not a real religious guy (maybe I am now!), but I pray several times a day. I know others do too... I still need all the help I can get!