I'm not kidding you when I tell you that it takes a very long time for a WAW to try to be willing "to be willing".
What a great nugget smack in the middle of typical Sandi treasure trove. I'm saving this entire post.
Hey, Gima, I took a couple of days off the forum. Plan on jumping in again tonight. Thought I'd catch up on your sitch first before heading out.
Up and down, up and down. But you sound good!
The Christmas/bike questions sound like a good, positive sign. Y'know, we're so accustomed to deflecting positive signs to protect ourselves from disappointments and to continue detaching - the old "yeah, and it could mean nothing at all," - that we can miss the "small changes" Michele tells us to be on the lookout for, those ever-so-slight (though often temporary) movements toward. Toward is toward (it ain't status quo and it ain't backwards).
Or, as I say when I notice small changes in my sitch:
Well, this is certainly good.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Re: FB - I do, but my profile there is for professional purposes. While I also have personal friends in amongst my business contacts I can't have divorce stuff plastered all over my Facebook page for professional reasons. I'd love to add you, but anything that has to do with this stuff needs to stay on the down-low. Is that ok?
Incidentally, Dia is short for Diotima of Mantinea, an historical figure who taught Plato about the love of the soul. I guess she's really only a footnote in Neo-Platonism, but for a woman to make the history books at all back then means she had to have been a big deal.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
I'm having a bit of trouble with the above. Perhaps you might investigate "cognitive science religion" and see what you find. I suggest copy/paste right into the blue bar at the top. I belong to #2, I do not live in Denmark but I know Gretchen, and people have been bugging me to put a picture up.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
Incidentally, Dia is short for Diotima of Mantinea, an historical figure who taught Plato about the love of the soul. I guess she's really only a footnote in Neo-Platonism, but for a woman to make the history books at all back then means she had to have been a big deal.
erratum - She was a teacher of Socrates; Plato told the story. This has no relevance to anything whatsoever aside from my own geekiness. Historical errors do not become us. *grin*
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
Coach - "I'll take figures in Greek philosphy for $500 Alex."
AT - "This female taught Socrates about the love of the soul."
Coach - "Who was Diotima of Mantinea?"
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
