W is having Affair -- may leave soon -- thread 2

[SavingMyMarriage]

I did learn the hard way. I started to go to church and I'm trying to get into a support group.

My biggest problem is pursuing and that needs to stop.

Anyway, I just learned that my W told my mother-in-law about the trip this weekend. What happened was that my MIL called my W last night and heard some noise in the background and asked where she was. My W said at the airport. My MIL asked where we (my W and I) were going? My W said that she wasn't going with me, but she was going out West. My MIL put 2 and 2 together and told her to come home as they needed to talk. My W still went on the trip, but supposedly they'll talk on Sunday or next week.

My W has said that I'm a good, nice, kind person, but she doesn't love me "that" way anymore and she sees us only as "friends" and wants to remain good friends. My response was something like, I'm sorry you feel that way. I am fighting for our marriage. Don't know if that was appropriate, but I kept it short.

I am pretty sure she will be having a talk with me next week about moving out. When she says this I will say something to the effect that I'm sorry she feels the way she does about us and that she wants to move out. I want to ensure I handle it RIGHT this time, so I think that's appropriate. This time I won't try talking her out of it or "pursue" her. I'm learning the hard way that saying less is more here and it has a greater impact.

If there is anything else worth saying here that would give her something to think about or has a greater impact, I would appreciate feedback. I'll be reading a lot and doing something good for me this weekend... basically focusing on "ME".