After reading what you said about H being out of the house is somewhat better has got me thinking. I'm always wondering if it would be better for me since I wouldn't see his comings and goings all the time. I also wouldn't be answering the phone when skank called, because she wouldn't be calling here. Did you read my last post since I came home? She called my home phone, probably thinking I was still gone. Grrr.... Stupid me, I didn't think to look at the caller ID when I answered it. I never would have thought she would call here. I kept saying Hello, and there was silence on the other end. I finally thought to look at the ID, and it was her. Then I hung up! I was so pissed, I couldn't think straight.
ML - It is easier however I miss him terribly of course...I did read your post and can't believe the nerve of her calling your house! Skank ass (sorry)!! Are we having fun yet? Ummm Let's go with yes because we deserve to have some fun :)Still ready for those drinks when you are anywhere near me or vice versa
Mac - Should I even ask what Kip is? Let's google it - I was wrong - Thought maybe it was a form of food...You went to take a nap Sleep tight and sweet dreams my friend
(((Hugs))) to you both!
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I hope you had a wonderful sleep and your day is going along just grand
Yes I thought Kip was food lol...Now I know different...
I swear a lot...You would think I was raised in the Navy but I am working on that...
Nothing new to report here..
No word from hubby since he called yesterday to talk to the little one...
Caught a look at his facebook today and someone had asked him a question about visiting the town where FT (fat troll if you haven't been following along) lived...
He stated he was there about a month ago visiting a good friend of his...
I took joy in the fact that he called her a friend but it still stings...
I want nothing more then this journey to end...
I miss him
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Checked our joint account (he doesn't know I have a seperate one) and he was charging money at a hotel...Asked him why are there charges for a hotel if you have your own apartment - He stated that they were working on his apartment - I don't buy that for 1 second...
And since I am tired of being lied to, I kinda went off...
Let him know I do in fact know the FT is in the same town, I know that he bailed the day she moved here, I know that he told her we were seperated and not living together, I know he has been lying to me for months etc...
He had the nerve to get mad at me...Asked me where I got my information (didn't tell him)...I asked him how long he signed a lease for (7 months)...When he was ever planning on seeing his kids (don't know)...
Then I stated I haven't asked him for crap this whole time...No money, no time nothing...
I have stood by and supported him while he dragged my name and our marriage through the mud - He said he appreciated it - WTF does that mean?
He said in time we would see what happens...
So I am now believing I am the fall back - Just in case it doesn't work out with her...How in the hell is that fair and do I want to be the fall back?
My Pastor told me I should never be 2nd...Maybe he is right...I don't know what to do anymore
What do I do?
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
You do nothing. Back off again, and leave him be, and live your life as if he's NOT coming back to you, and like you're NOT going to be his "2nd choice."
It's good that you confronted him, and VERY good that you didn't tell him how you knew. Don't ever tell him that. Document the spending (a family court judge isn't going to look kindly on his spending family assets on a "love nest" for him and his girlfriend), and go about your day.
Easier said than done, emotionally, I realize, but that IS my advice to you. He will contact YOU very soon -- probably in a panic (unless he's even more delusional than I think he is). Unless it's about your sons, just ignore him.
As always thank you for coming...I really didn't mean to go off but he has lied so much that I don't know what to believe anymore...
He says he is happy and having fun...Yet doesn't sound like it...
My mind just won't wrap around this whole situation for some reason...
It is like I am living a really bad dream...
I will go back in the dark as per your advice...
I just want some answers but apparently he isn't going to be giving them to me...
Does he really expect me to sit here and wait while he sees if things pan out with her? He can't truly be actually thinking that?
I did get his reason for not telling me he moved...Ready..."I just wanted to keep the peace at that time" What the hell ever...
I am thinking he didn't like the fact that I knew what he was trying so desperately to hide and I didn't even know from him...That changed the whole tone of the conversation once he knew I knew...
Back into my cave I go
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Nothing he tells you will be the truth right now anyway. He'll only lie, and the truth is HE probably doesn't even know "why" he's doing what he's doing. He's confused and selfish right now, and it's his battle to sort out and you can't control it or even really STEER it.
All you can do is work on yourself, and lay out (and enforce) healthy boundaries for you and your sons, which you've done a really good job of.
You can't "teach an adulterer," but you CAN occasionally get in little "truth darts" that MAY get thru to them somewhat. If he says he's "having fun" again, just say something like "Well, I'm sure your sons will understand your leaving their lives so long as you're having 'fun'." or "Is that the kind of character you want to teach to your sons?"
Other than that, there's not much you can do other than protect YOURSELF -- legally, financially, emotionally, spiritually.
