I would send her an e-mail along the lines of "W, I am more than willing to have us together for our children during these important events of their lives. Having us together shows them that we both support them and encourage their growth and development. I will keep this in mind for future events that occur throughout the year. NC"
I know she is dense but great way to document what you are thinking!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory