Tomato- thanks for the thread expansion. :-)

Not to get too off topic, but you should give the The Hobbit & The Lord of the Rings "trilogy" (it's not really a true trilogy) another look. I am a little biased ;-), but I think that LOTR is one of the greatest literary works of the 20th century. Prof. Tolkien was a expert linguist (among other things) and longtime professor of language and literature at Oxford University. The worlds he created are incredibly complex, and incorporate many elements of Germanic/Norse mythology. In fact, his works have been the subject of college courses.

Not to disparage Ms. Rowling and her "Harry Potter" creation, but Professor Tolkien (and CS Lewis) pretty much _created_ the fantasy genre. It is quite possible that if it weren't for him, and a few others in his circle, there would be no "Harry Potter".

Back to something more on-topic: no word from her so far today. I popped a quick note to my attorney just to update her with what the W was doing with closing credit cards, etc.

The Head & Heart Soreness Meter© is at about a 5.5, I think. It doesn't help that I stay up too late & have trouble waking up in the morning, leading to having to rush to get to work barely on time. Plus, the fact that the weather here has turned grey and oppressively muggy isn't helping. I have started riding my bike again (12-18 miles), and that helps my head, but in this weather that isn't a pleasant activity.

I am listening to "The Secret" again on the way back & forth to work- that helps calm me a bit. Trying to visualize and project a positive outcome to this whole sorry mess without being delusional about the reality of the current moment...

Middle Earth sounds like it would be a really good place to visit about now.... :-)

Me: 50; Wife: 48
Gay; civil union in NJ
no kids
M: 15 years, together 17
Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY
W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed