I go to her and try to comfort her, but sometimes I just can't get her to calm down unless I pick her up. I worry that I may be setting a pattern by picking her up and on some nights
Read about early attachment. She needs you to pick her up and hold her close.
My kids slept in my bed as babies and transitioned fine to their own room (besides, I am well aware that they wont want to sleep in my bed as teenagers)...Babies cry for a reason. She should not learn this young that she is on her own. She should be held and nurtured and given an opportunity to feel safe and responded to.
