I don't seem to be getting any questions answered that I am asking you. Not that I am trying to be on your case as there are times I could be accused of the same thing.
However, have you gone to rejoiceministries.org? Have you started reading FaithfulH's thread?
I do see you starting to slip into a dark depression. You could benefit from a strong antidepressant at the very minimum. If you are open to C and listening, I would suggest that as well. But you have to be open to it for it to benefit you any.
I am praying for you. And again, I don't know if you are reading our threads, but it is NOT over yet. You are giving up way to easily. You are quitting before the race has even really begun. Did you read what we told you about the D process taking a while and many changes have happened through it even when all else seemed hopeless? Where is your faith in God? Where is your strength to stand in the face of a challenge? I know you are stronger than this.
Don't retreat when things look bad. If you are depressed and giving up already, then you have already lost the battle. If you are strong and confident and keep on fighting, there is no reason for you to believe it is over.
My sitch looks completely hopeless. But I still have faith that at some point some day, things will turn the other way. Is it hard? Yes, very hard. Have I wanted to give up and walk away? Most certainly. Many times. But then I bounce back and remember that nothing is impossible with God. God said he can change a heart of stone into a heart of flesh. Please read FaithfulH's thread and you will see what I am saying. Where she is at mentally right now means absolutely nothing. NOTHING!
Things may look hopeless for a while. You need to remember who is in charge and who wants your M to succeed and be restored. God can make things happen that you can't see right now. Do you trust him? Can you entrust your W to him? Do you have enough faith in God to do that? Like a song says that I love... "Get On Your Knees And Fight Like A Man".
You can do this. Cmon, you don't run in your line of work and you have a very dangerous job that requires lots of courage. Use that same courage towards your M.
If you are interested, there is a group of Noreastern Standers that meets once a month that FaithfulH is apart of. They just met this past tuesday for dinner and prayer. They are a great group of guys. I am part of that group as well except that I live in Texas so I can't join the dinners. But FaithfulH is moving here and we are going to start our own prayer and dinner group. I can put you in touch with these guys if you would be interested. You already have my email address I believe. Let me know.
But PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not lose hope so fast. I can't tell you not to be sad about the current circumstances as we all know they are hard. But it is up to you how you are going to choose to walk through this and carry yourself. It is up to you if you are going to trust the Lord at this point and make the changes you need to make for yourself. If you don't trust in God, who else is there to trust in? I don't like the alternative.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...