I am traveling down a few roads right now. We have this job seeking place in my County that I have been going to. They give tests to see what you are good at. They have counselors that kind of help you. And they have classes on Resume writhing, self esteem, self assessments, exploring Careers, "the hidden job market.... The problem is there are so many people unemployed in my area that the classes are booked a week in advance and I am only able to go to one class a week. These classes are at no charge There is a program called TAA (Trade Adjustment Act) that helps people whose jobs were lost because of production going overseas. This program is the “Cadillac” of programs giving you $10,000.00 training expenses and extends your unemployment to two years. I kind of lost my job this way but it is hard to prove. What happened is that someone else s job went overseas so they bumped me. This way the company can say nobody lost their job because it went overseas. My counselor told me to file anyway because you never know. I need to get the names of two other people that I worked with that were also laid off to put on the form. I am waiting for them to respond back to me. Then there is WIA (Workforce Investment Act). You need to be a Low income adult. (Which I was not…. low income that is) OR Dislocated worker lay off from a company. This program pays $2500.00 towards training. And last but not least is through State Disability which is hard for me because even though I lost my leg in a car accident I do not consider myself disabled. But if that is what I need to do so be it. All three of these programs have you jumping though hoops.. You need to do the self assessment to see what you are good at (I’ve done) then you need to do “Career Exploration” (my next class)I need to find careers in my area that I am interested in. Do informational interviews, Prove that they are reasonable for me to achieve. (I can’t say I want to be a Brain surgeon) and then write a proposal to be accepted into the programs…. It would be so easy to just go out and find a low paying job and don’t get me wrong I do not think I am too good to work at one of these and I will if necessary. It’s just that I see this as an opportunity to find a job that I can’t wait to get to in the morning. Something I really like to do not just do something just because I am good at it.
Side note…. Wife’s back is really bad. She can hardly bend at all. I told her to go back to her regular doctor she really liked. (My insurance does not cover him) that I have that money the company gave me when I left. I think she was happy to hear that. I do want to get wife better so I can continue this journey because it is hard to flirt and make passes at someone who is in pain. I am keeping positive. Kind of funny today wife went into her room and when I passed she had her door half closed I said I was leaving to go work on my firewood and she did not answer. I said it again and then she opened her door and said she was just adjusting her back support belt. (Remember I watched a baby come out of this woman and now she did not want me to see her back?) Anyway she opened the door and proceeded to adjust her belt. In the past she would have closed the door again So see we are getting closer. She later told me that it feel good to have the belt on but when she takes if off if feel good too like her taking off her bra or how I must feel when I take off my leg. I told her ya I know how good that feels…. my leg that is I don’t wear a bra. Then I said I probably could wear n A cup and she said maybe a double A and then she laughed. I tell you she would get mad If I saw her underwear in the hamper a year ago and now here we are talking about me wearing a bra…….I did asked her if she needed any help and she said no she can do it…..
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I think and I know “hope4” said it in his sitch. “I can’t put my finger on it but she is holding back” It’s like not taking the last cookie.. You know you want it but something stops you from taking it. I know she wants my cookie but had talked her out of taking it. She has let down her wall. It’s still there a little but it’s no longer made of stone more like paper now..
Been a loooong time since I posted to you Doc. Was that one of my quotes? I know there's a few other Hopes out there. It sounds familier, but I'm not sure.
Glad to hear things are going well with you. On my end things didn't quite turn out as I had hoped, but I'm thinking I'll be better off in the end. Divorce was finalized 6/17. She's been living with OG since early this year. The process of the D was not very pretty, but I understand ours was much less painful than most.
Anyhow, I've been crazy busy. Work is good. I have the kids every other week and stay very active with them. Dating here and there. All is good.
Hey Hope, I don't remember if it was you or not. Two years ago I swore I would not be in this sitch that long and here I am. In a way I feel sorry for your outcome....but in another way I envy you. At least you can move on. After reading your post to me I looked around the house and son was on his computer, Wife was watching her soaps (she records them and watches them at night, Could never figure that out it's not like she works during the day but whatever) And there was peace in my house. No things are not 100% great but I would say at least 75% ok. So many little things I have either because aware of or they are little straws I keep grasping. Last night after dinner I went to give my Wife the usually after dinner “thanks for dinner kiss” well this time when I did she was standing and she put her hands on my hips when I did this. (Closest thing to her giving me a hug on her own in a long time). So we went from not kissing two years ago to her not even turning her head but letting me kiss her on the cheek, to turning her head and at least letting me kiss her on the lips to actually kissing me back…. What a long strange trip it’s been….. Like I said what seems to be working for both of us it this “two step” thing. I advance far enough to not make her uncomfortable and then back off enough so I am not let down.
As for the job market? Still nothing. I am not really looking yet. I am trying for retraining but this two is a slow process. A lot of hoops to jump through. Maybe my Marriage situation has helped me prepare for this job sitch. I told wife last night as soon as I have this training funds approved I will go to the temp agency and put my name in to find work while I am in school. Strange situation that I can’t do it the other way around. If I got a temp job before I would not be eligible for any funds… Anyway I bartered some guy into letting me have some tongue and groove decking for free so this weekend I will be building the deck so wife can use the pool. The only bad news I have is my trailer broke a leaf spring and I can’t find a replacement anywhere so I will not be hauling anything with my jeep but I still have the old P/U (with over 200,000 miles on it) but you know them fords… They keep on running.. Later Doc love….
I listen to our favorite song Playing on the radio Hear the dj say loves a game of easy come and Easy go But I wonder does he know Has he ever felt like this And I know that youd be here right now If I could have let you know somehow I guess
Every rose has its thorn Just like every night has its dawn Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song Every rose has its thorn
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ford Never filed bankruptcy..... My 68 still turns heads... But I have to admit my 90 P/U is a "beater truck" but that’s ok I NEVER worry about scratching it...
So things are going good. The main part of the swimming pool deck is complete. I had enough extra lumber to build a patio deck also. But as usual the weather has turned again in it is not getting much over the upper 70s I have seen a big change in my Wife. No….. we are not intimate yet but her attitude has changed allot. Like she knows I hate it when she says she is Fat. Now she says she is “plus size”. Then other night she made herself a drink and then asked me if I wanted one. Last night I was playing a game with son and she came in and I asked her if she could get me a refill on my drink. To my surprise she did. In the past she would have said “ya right make it yourself” I am starting to see the woman I married in her. Friday she is going to a retirement party (just cake) at the place we both used to work for one of her friends that she knew before me. Then she told me that after the party they are going to the local bar (where we first met) and asked if I wanted to meet them there…
WOW…my wife for the last two years did not want me to go anyplace she was meeting her friends. In fact at her last class reunion she told me she did not want me to go.. So it looks like I have come full circle now. We are back to where we were when we first met at the bar we first met at….. I think it is time OT. Time to hit on her at “our bar”
Life it good Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
