She was admitted to the psych ward of the hospital which is not where she needs to be - it's not a good place, apparently not clean etc.
My H has been at the hospital with her H. He's in a situation where he's the buffer. She's in so much pain and has so much hurt and anger at her H that she baits him and of course he takes the bait and then it's on. My H spends most of his time trying to counsel his best friend (her H) because he makes everything about him.
I've carefully tried to express my concerns which he says he understands. He said I need you to understand that I need to do this right now. I'm the only person she has that she feels she can trust and this is a life and death matter.
But I cannot push this anymore than I have. He won't withdraw from the situation because her H is handling it so poorly he feels like he needs to be there. Her H is clueless on what to do and my H has to push him to get the ball running in the right direction.
He comes home and talks to me for a very long time and shares absolutely everything. Does this bother me - you bet! I honestly don't know what else to do because I've made one comment apparently already that he said I sounded callous. So I'm just trying to be as supportive as I can just being a good listener. My H went through a horrible depression over a failed business when our youngest son was born and was suicidal so he relates to what she's going through oh too well.
This is the hardest thing I've had to do. I can't make this all about me or I will push him away. Yet, I'm just sick to my stomach. It hurts me to see how torn up over this he is and if I'm honest I'm extremely jealous. Then I feel guilty because here's a woman who's tried to kill herself.
I couldn't sleep this morning so I just got up and came into work. I've told him I'm here to provide support - he says he appreciates that.
My next IC session isn't until next Wednesday. Wish this wasn't the week I decided to start going every other week!
