Sounds like a brilliant weekend Julia! How special that your sister made a point of mentioning you in her speech. It makes the heart swell to know that you have had a positive impact on someone you love.
I remember you saying how isolated you felt living at your house since you were now alone there and it was difficult to get back and forth to London. It's so great that you were able to find a place to live that you love! You'll need to post pics of the new place and the area in the alt so we can all drool.
Keep doing what you are doing! You sound awesome!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Well done for getting through the wedding, I am sure that cant have been easy.. and thats very sweet of your Mum and your sis! I also feel the best by product of all this, was that I got alot closer to my family, my Mum especially.
I am amazed he helped you until 1am! SOunds like he really was a gent. You said he had texted a bit since and seems to want to stay in touch, thats great.. what kinds of things are you texting about?
And the garden party sounds amazing, you lucky thing you! I am working for a charity now, its ace isnt it? All the people are really nice.
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
(((Cas))) Thank you for your lovely words, they made me smile. I hope your wedding goes well!
(((Mishka))) My intention for this weekend is to go out and about so I will take some pics and post them. Those 18 months on my own in that house were hard. It's funny that sometimes the thing you least want turns out to be a fantastic opportunity.
(((Ali))) I hope you aren't being drowned by the rain at the moment; London town is looking pretty dreary. That is fab news about the new not-for-profit sector job, I'm so pleased. I hope you are enjoying it! I love having a different aim where it is not just making money but also giving it away.
He was a real gent that move day and was really amazing. He worked so hard without me even having to ask him to. Even better than when we were together We have been mainly texting about money and stuff and sorting things out but with a bit of banter and chat thrown in.
Tomorrow it is his birthday so I texted him and asked for his address. He gave me his home one, in the past it has always been work but now he doesn't have a work one so I guess there is not an alternative. I have a fantastic card; it is a picture of a cat that looks identical to Maple in boxing gloves and a hoodie. The envelope is pink with spots on it, which I didn't realise, so that should make a splash through his letter box (evil laugh)
I texted him and asked if he fancied going for birthday cake at the amazing bakery we went to before. The text was casual, open and non-pursuing. He texted back today to say yes, he also texted me later on about a guy we used to know. As usual thought there is no fixing of a time to meet but it is funny, that invite I sent to him was the first where I didn't care if he replied or not, I just figured, if he didn't it was his loss. Likewise, if he doesn't let me know when he is free as he says in his texts, again, his loss. Maybe I'm getting better at this letting go of fear and detachment lark?!
I was thinking about the fact that he doesn't see me as a person to be attracted to and I think that is deeply routed in our past issues with me being his nurse whilst he was ill. It is something I am going to ponder over and set some goals. I'm doing a bit of research about what men and women find attractive. To be honest, I wouldn't change myself for him necessarily but it could be fun for me. Dressing in a 180 outfit at the wedding drew lots of compliments and was exciting. I'm going to look some more into it.
Hey Julia, I think you are letting go of the fear & detachment lark! You realize it when you don't worry if they respond & you don't play the I'll wait to respond game. If ya feel like it do it. No response - definitely his loss! Many men are all about fantasies. Did you ever wear a naughty nurses outfit? Bet that would have changed his thoughts about you .... lol
With your house selling/your move - with my D - yep you are right, sometimes what is best we cannot see.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I think it's wonderful to be able to issue an invitation without concern as to the answer. I'm sure it's also apparent to them when we are too eager or too concerned with the response. Even better that he agreed to join you. Yay!
I should so try a naughty nurses outfit - the reaction (or perhaps lack of) would be pretty funny.
I emailed h on FB today as he had put a pic up of him in his new uniform. I didn't want to comment publicly, that was a little too brazen for me, so I emailed to just say how smart it was and commented on the crest. I wondered if it was too soon but since he left I have been too scared to do these things for fear of driving him away but at the same time wanting to be part of his life again. Loads of other people had commented too.
I am feeling a little down today, it was his birthday yesterday and that made me miss him. I had sent a card which is really all I could do. Also that he wants to go for cake at some point. I won't push that though, I asked him and he said that it would be nice and he'd let me know a day so I guess we can celebrate then.
I wish the weather would cheer up here! Where has the summer gone?! I'm back in jeans, boots and 3/4 length tops and umbrella!
Ohhh, I'm a bit negative today. Perhaps I will cheer myself up with some yoga after work.
I guess something else that has been on my mind is that I had to log into our joint account today to check whether our final credit card payment had gone. I saw that his portion of the money from the sale of the house has taken a considerable hit (my portion is separate now and safe). He has been paying off credit cards all over the place and has obviously been taking out a lot of credit this year. I know I have to not get involved and it is no longer our money but it is hard not to feel some kind of disappointment at it being drained away.
I have no reason to look again so I won't but still, I guess I can only control me and I know that my portion is going to be looked after very wisely. It is the future after all.
We have been mainly texting about money and stuff and sorting things out but with a bit of banter and chat thrown in.